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6.17.2017

My FIRST Photoshoot for my THIRTIETH birthday


I didn't think much about turning 30, but when my sister informed me that I should totally do a birthday photoshoot, I was all in.  I spent a Saturday getting my hair and makeup done, eating cake, and smiling/laughing with my sister behind the camera.  She gave me incredible photos and I can't thank her enough for all she did for me.  

Here is a preview of a few gems she took: 





















































Birthday Sign: CustomPrintablesNY 


Cake: Family friend

Photographer: Sister 

Props: My favorite beverage, books I still haven't read and my lovely blog hat.

(Post not sponsored by Dr. Pepper, even though I would like to be)


6.07.2017

The End of a Decade: Maid of Honor Edition



The first time I was in a wedding occurred on April 25, 2007.  

The bride and I were roommates/dancers at Hinds and she asked me to be her Maid of Honor.  First wedding I had ever been a part of and she asked me to be someone to stand close to her and fix her dress when needed.  I was so proud to stand beside her and I think I did the majority of my duties.




The last time I was a part of a wedding day was February 11, 2017.  

The bride and I became friends through our mutual friend, Bridget, and she also asked me to be her Maid of Honor.  I tried to do all of the duties a Maid of Honor does and I hope I did everything correctly.  




I don't have any other friend's on the agenda getting married anytime soon and the weddings I have invitations too; I am just a guest in the crowd, not a girl in a dress up at the front of the venue.  And I'm okay with that.

I have learned so much over the last ten years about how to be a bridesmaid/maid of honor.  I put this post together today, just in case someone needed a little reference guide on how to be or improve your bridesmaid/maid of honor duties…



1.  You must be close friends with the Bride. 

This may sound like a no brainer, but hear me out.  Weddings either bring out the best or the worst in people; that's just a fact that I have seen lived out over the last decade.  I am still extremely close to the brides I was close friends with before their wedding day.  If I was feeling indifferent ​about a particular one, it showed.  My sister reminded me of a wedding a couple years back, that I just looked extremely angry the whole ceremony.  I didn't feel like I was, but your body just knows when you aren't having it anymore.  I don't regret a minute of any wedding I was in, I just know what my boundaries are from now on.


2.  You can't do it all by yourself.

On average, a bride will ask at least 6 girls to be a part of her big day.  That means you always have someone else to lean on for help when preparing for bridal activities, such as the bridal shower and bachelorette party.  I love to plan things and find cute gifts so planning bachelorette survival kits was one of my favorite things to do; but I couldn't do it by myself.  I needed financial help and opinions from the other girls involved.  Whenever you start to get stressed, ask for help.  One or more of the bridesmaids will jump at the chance to help, I promise you. 


3.  Always listen to the Bride.

This one may also be a little "DUH" moment, but I think this is when you learn a lot.  Just listening to the Bride and her struggles, fears, and wishes.  I will cherish each moment I had listening to the brides and how much they needed help or what they were feeling during the wedding planning process.  Your listening ear is sometimes all they need to get through that moment and on to the next step.  Don't take that time for granted.


4.  Enjoy your time with the Bride and get to know the other girls, if possible.

I have met some of the greatest girls through weddings of my close friends.  Some people that I can't imagine myself not knowing otherwise.  I fully trust each person that comes into my life, until they give me a reason not to and I think that definitely applies to weddings.  There are a lot of events that take place with weddings and the bridal party can make or break a group.  I have been so blessed to be a part of meeting wonderful ladies or making stronger bonds with the women I already surround myself with.  Get to know the girls that the bride asked to stand beside her, you may find yourself a new friend in the process. 




5.  Embrace the chaos, the getting ready "day of", and the bridesmaid dress. 

You are not going to like each dress you wear for weddings; but one thing is for sure: you will be beautiful in it.  Brides don't want their best girlfriends to look terrible, so embrace whatever color and style it is.  The one dress I had the most "uhhh, I don't know" about turned out to be one of my favorite pictures that I still showcase to this day.




6.  If you are still single (like me), learn to smile through each bouquet toss and always remember that you are enough. 

In the last wedding I was a part of, the bride didn't do a bouquet toss.  She told me beforehand that she wanted me to have her bouquet; her last single bridesmaid in the group.  She came out on the dance floor and presented the bouquet to me and it was such a sweet moment.  The flowers sat in a vase in my room for over a week and even now, it reminds me of how much I appreciate her, no matter what season of life I am currently in. 



Do you have any tips as a bridesmaid or a bride that I missed? 
Please leave them below so we can all learn from you! :)



4.02.2017

It Finally Clicked: My Testimony


On February 5, 2017, I walked down the aisle at Hickory Ridge Baptist Church and completely surrendered my life to Jesus Christ.  I wouldn't say my journey to Jesus has been a simple one, but looking back it's never been that complicated either.  

If you have ever had doubts whether or not you have been saved or have ever been plagued with the "What if I'm not?" question of your salvation, I hope my story will speak to you and let you know you're not alone.  





If there was a title for my testimony, it would be:
IT FINALLY CLICKED


From the time I was born, my mom has always taken me to church.  The first time I said the sinner's prayer and baptized was in the 7th grade during a revival service at my church.  However, I didn't truly surrender my life to Jesus as I should have.  A year later, another revival came to our church and the preacher asked "do you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that your name is written in the lamb's book of life?" And I couldn't answer a definite yes.  I recommitted again that night and I remember my Sunday School teacher saying, "Cassie you can't recommit your life to Jesus every year."  I re-committed because I didn't feel like I had been the Christian that I should have been.  In high school and college, I was a good girl/good student, but I was not attending church regularly and began doing what I wanted to do more and more.  I was still involved in the Baptist Student Union in college though and would go to church if someone asked me to go with them. 

Fast forward to the end of 2015, I went back to the church I grew up in one Sunday morning thinking I was going to sit with my mom.  She had nursery duty that morning so I sat there by myself and not one person spoke to me.  I remember sitting there feeling absolutely invisible and how nothing the preacher said was getting through to me.  I went home and told my mom that "I never wanted to go back to that church; the one I grew up in was like I had never been there at all." My mom responded with "I don't care where you go to church, just as long as you go somewhere."  


After that, my friend Brooke asked me if I wanted to try Hickory Ridge Baptist Church with her - that she had gone the Sunday before and really liked it.  I told her "sure" but I didn't expect much.  The minute we got there, we were greeted and hugged and just loved on.  Brother Terry preached that morning about being an Uncommon Giver and I could clearly understand everything he was talking about and I just knew something was different there.  You know what? I wanted to go back, the next Sunday.  




After attending HRBC for a few months, Brooke and I joined the church on April 4, 2016.  Bro. Terry asked us if we had a personal relationship with Jesus and I kinda shook my head yes, but there was a small pit in my stomach that was like "do you really?"  The same doubt I had all those years ago during the revivals in my junior high years hit me all over again.  


After joining the church, I began a bible study with 3 of my closest girlfriends called, The Search for Significance, by Robert S. McGee.  That study really opened my eyes and heart to understanding more about the love of God and how God wants us to know we are significant to Him, that he died for us and no matter what we do, HE is always going to love and pursue us - no matter what.  But even after the study was over, I still had doubts about my salvation.  The question kept popping up in my head at the most random times:  What if I'm not? Have I ever truly surrendered?  And I couldn't answer that question with a sincere yes.





At the beginning of January 2017, Brooke and I signed up for a 13 week bible study at the church called Experiencing God.  From the first day of class, the main thing that kept coming up was RELATIONSHIP with Jesus, not RELIGION: not going to church, reading your bible here and there, going through the motions.  It was about the relationship and do you have the relationship.  A bible verse that really stuck out to me, was John 8:47.  After a while of the question racking my brain and heart, I finally broke down and sent Bro. Terry an email and told him my story: 


Bro. Terry, 

I am writing you today because as I'm taking this Experiencing God bible study I read today about how God speaks to his people.  In John 8:47 it says "if you don't hear God, you do not belong to God" and all of a sudden, I'm doubting my salvation again.  


I wrote my entire life story up to that point and I waited to hear back from him.   I'll never forget his response, but i have his email saved (just in case): 


Hey Cassie, 

i want to say thank you for reaching out to me. And i’ll start with the John 8:47 reference. We must be careful to understand it in light of context. In the flow of that passage Jesus was referencing the fact that the truth that Jesus was teaching they were not able to understand (hear) because they were not saved. You on the contrary have heard His words and even responded to them. One of two things are going on. 1)  You responded with faith and repentance and just are not growing. You see our salvation and the assurance of our salvation are two different things. John said i write these things to you so that you may know that you have eternal life. If we are not reading and spending time in them we will not know or will have doubts. OR 2)  You were never really saved. In which case the Spirit may be drawing you. 

You can settle this by asking God to reveal it to you and drawing near to Him by spending time in His word, in prayer, in worship with His people, and in serving Him. In that time He will certainly show you. He loves you so very much and desires you to be rock solid in your faith. i am praying for you right now. Hope to worship with you tonight. Please let me know if you have any more questions.

Rescued,
Terry


After his email, I knew then that I just had to get real with God, pray and tell him how much I was done with doing everything my way and truly just let him take control, having faith and believing that I am saved - only through Jesus, nothing that I've done or ever will do can change that.  I believe he died on the cross for me, rose again and washed away my sins with His blood.  

On February 5, 2017, the invitation came again and I was still so hesitant to walk down the aisle because this would be my third time to do this.  I remember bartering with God saying that I didn't want to be a hindrance to my friends that i rode with to church, so i would just come back that night and do it.  Then, Brooke tapped me on the shoulder and said they were going down to join as a family.  I said okay and stood there again.  It was in that moment God was like, Okay Cass, what's your excuse now? you don't have any! Surrender to me!  

So I walked.  I had no clue what i was going to say when i got up to Bro. Terry and all that came out was "i was the one that emailed you last week" and he said Cassie? I said yes.  He said, what are you wanting to do today and i started to tear up and said "i want it to be known that i am completely surrendering my life to Jesus.  He asked me again, "what do you mean by that?" and i said, "i want Jesus to be in charge of my life; stop just going to church and living as a religion and start building an actual relationship."

I specifically remember Bro. Terry praying for what i needed most - that God would take the doubt away, that i would be sure that I am a child of God and my name is written in the Lamb's book of life.  And you know what? The doubt did go away.  There is a peace now that wasn't there before.  I had to come to the realization on my own that it's a personal relationship with God - I always knew it up here in my head, but not here in my heart.  

On March 26, 2017, I got baptized for the second time in my life, but I truly believe that it doesn't matter how many times you walk down the aisle, say the sinner's prayer, or attend church: one day it's just going to click that it's a daily relationship with Jesus and a daily walk/surrender to let Jesus be the Lord of your life.  Once you realize that, everything changes.  There is such a peace now that I didn't have before. 





I cannot thank my mom enough for always taking me church and being the Godly woman that she is and to my best friend Brooke for inviting me to Hickory Ridge and for realizing that I needed to be more than just your 'church buddy'.  Without the two of you, i doubt i would be sitting here writing this blog post.  

I also want to thank my girlfriends who have spoken the word of God to me over and over again - I wouldn't be where I am today without each one of you.  




If you get nothing else from this, please know that I'm not perfect and never will be, but i know now that i am a child of God.  Jesus never stopped pursuing me, and he will never stop pursuing you either.  If you have any doubts like i had about your salvation, i pray that my testimony speaks to you and shows that just because you went to church your whole life, doesn't mean you are saved.  


It's a daily personal relationship with Jesus... 
that's all that matters.

If you need prayer or just want to talk, please email me at alwaysablogsmaid@gmail.com, i would absolutely love to hear from you. 


2.25.2017

Camera Roll Chronicles: Kaylee's Bachelorette Party




The weekend of October 20th, 2017, 6 of us girls packed our bags and headed to Nashville, TN.  The official hashtag I came up with for the weekend was…

#LeaveItToWeaver 



Our Itinerary for the Trip 




5 women, 1000 bags + a box fan 




5 of us girls at Rendezvous in Memphis, TN 






I was in charge of Kaylee's Bachelorette Bags and had the best time finding all the goodies that went in all the bags.  





I spent a lot of time looking searching Etsy for the best Nashville goodies and I came across some great shops: 




I ordered this bag from becollective and had Welcome! added above the TN state sign
Had to order these cups from YouGotPersonal and they were the best investment 





I wanted tattoos for us, but I ended up getting a custom order of her hashtag, #LeaveItToWeaver
from this shop and she was so sweet and easy to work with: PolkaDotzDesigns





Fran ordered these buttons for us to wear out and it was so nice to have all different types of sayings to choose from.  I forgot the Etsy shop page, but it was easy to find - just type in Bachelorette party buttons. 













Presents for the Bride - specifically for the lingerie shower Friday night 




Friday night we went to eat at Mack + Kate's. 
The service was incredible and the food was pretty good too.  
A perfect night to fill up on good food and cocktails before we went back to the house to hang out. 




All of us girls: Caitlin, Sarah, Kaylee, Mandy, Fran and myself 



Caitlin, Fran and I 




The next morning we woke up and headed through McDonalds to get some breakfast before our spa day.  I got my first EVER massage, a 90 minute swedish massage and it was the best thing I've ever experienced so far.  I completely get it now when people told me to get a massage, I GET IT. 



Post massage glow





After the spa and blowouts, we grabbed some lunch across the street and then made our way to a famous Nashville location: Opryland.  They were setting up for Christmas already and it was so pretty and magical. 






Once we got back to the house, we started to get ready for dinner at Butchertown Hall and then a stop on Broadway - the main party road in Nashville (like Bourbon Street is to NOLA). 




Cookies I had made from Campbell's Bakery in Madison, MS 




The only picture of me and the bride before going to dinner 








Post brunch happiness 




We ended the trip by having brunch at The Southern and it was AMAZING.  


The entire trip was such a good time, even if it started off with getting honked at on the interstate and we thought we were going to die, but other than that - an absolutely wonderful time.  I cherish these girls and I met my Nashville roomie, Fran who I will consider to be a lifetime friend now.  I am so thankful we all got to experience a city we had never been too and I hope to visit Nashville again in the future.  

#LeaveItToWeaver was a definite success!